Valentine’s day. For some, this day is used to define the level of love or worthiness of a relationship. Some refer to it as a Hallmark Holiday. A day that consumers spend money on cards, chocolate, jewelry, and flowers. Somewhere along the past 15 years, I lost that loving feeling for Vday.
Hubby and I do usually go out to dinner but it does not hold any more energy or significance than any other dinner date out. Now, time travel back to 6,8, 10 years ago and my idea of what should happen on Valentine’s was much different. No card. No flowers. No gift. Does this mean you don’t love me? You don’t care?
Somewhere in between kids and developing security in myself, I no longer care.
The standards I base my marriage on is more significant than a box of shitty chocolates. While I do feel hubby and I are just a kick-ass couple, trekking through life as a team, our marriage has been rocked. The foundation has been tested. The roof has leaked. Windows have gotten broken. BUT the house still remains. The house is respected, loved and even fragile. The house forgives.
What matters is how your husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend acts or treats you the other 364 days a year. Really, it takes no effort to “put on airs”for one day or even one love packed sickening weekend. How does your better half act when you are sick? Do they support you? Show up or show out? It is my believe that hubby and I should treat each other with the same respect whether it is Flag Day or Valentines Day.
That being said…. if Mothers Day is not declared a National holiday in my house… hell have no fury like a woman scorned.
PS- if you are curious how we spent Sunday… We got to see love and happiness on M’s(6) face as her buddy D(6) came over, in the snow, with homemade frosted sugar cookies, card covered in crayon and a homemade bead necklace displaying Ms name for Valentine’s day. Hubby also took the kiddos to the grocery store so I could nap ( best. “gift”. ever). We then checked out an amazing new Vegan restaurant that we both have been eyeing for a few months now.